This morning I am supposed to be working on a presentation for a ministry event this weekend and I sense the Lord saying, “Write something for men who have been abused.” My initial instinct is to duck this assignment because I am not interested in opening wounds for people if I am not present to tend to them or available to help people process. Yes, I know that God is sovereign and that God will place the right people in the right places, at the right time. So, here I am writing for my brothers ~ red, yellow, black and white! This is not a race thing but a reconciliation thing! I want to journey with you as you are reconciled back to yourself!
I am a survivor of sexual abuse; so, I know the pains that come with that trauma. I was 26 years old when I told my parents what happened to me as a child and I never told them that I had been violated as a college student. Because at some twisted level I blamed myself for being in the wrong place, at the wrong time, with the wrong guy. I thought he was right, but at the tender age of 17 what did I know about the “right guy”.
I give this back story to share that I know the shame, the guilt (for something you had no control over), the pains and the dysfunctions that come with all of that! I write to let you know that freedom is available! Healing is accessible! Love and total acceptance is knocking at your door. If it wasn’t so, you wouldn’t be reading this at this time and engaged to find out what I’m saying. I’ve been a part of deep inner-healing work (both as a participant and facilitator), for almost 10 years now and I promise you, when I started I was a mess. But, through the grace of God, the sweet communion of the Holy spirit, some wonderful caregivers and my commitment to tell myself the truth I am on a beautiful healing journey now.
I sense the need to say, be honest with yourself! Slowly begin to take off the mask you’ve been wearing! Admit that you are in pain! Admit that your dysfunctional behaviors really aren’t anesthetizing your pain and that you are ready to do your work! Help is available! I and some of my equipped colleagues would love to journey with you as you pursue your healing! I guarantee, it will make you a better self, better mate, better parent, better co-worker, and a better individual all around. I know it’s not easy for men to give voice to this because of the stigmas and perceptions that come with this. So let’s do this in a safe, nonjudgmental, non-condemning, loving, and accepting space; where you are free to be, and free to feel, and free to pour out for your freedom’s sake!
You are worthy and you’re worth it! If you’re not ready to talk, but want to begin to investigate what you’ve been going through and how you’re feeling: breathe, give yourself permission to feel and check out some of these resources!!!
Meditation scripture: John 8:36 ~ So think of it this way: if the Son comes to make you free, you will really be free. Voice Translation
Take good care of you!!! Lisa