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self acceptanceFor the last 3 or 4 weeks God has been dealing with me on the word ~ embarrassment.  I am wrestling with the thought that embarrassment comes from one of three thoughts – one out of fear, one out of shame, and the other out of arrogance.  Stay with me as I hash this out, outside of my head and let me know your perspective…

When I am embarrassed by behaviors or life situation of others, am I saying, considering, or thinking that I am better than that individual and they should behave and live in a manner that is comfortable or befitting of what I think is right? Yes!   I realize we all have an overly intoxicated cousin, a loud friend, an obnoxious co-worker or someone we know up close and personal who wears a 4x but buys a size 12…We all know people who we really wish would act differently.  But, if we were honest about what “differently” means ~ I am realizing that it means for me, in a way that fits what “I think” is appropriate.  How does the way someone else behave effect you?  The people who think less of you because of someone else’s behavior is looking through a lens of piety. What arrogance!  Who am I to determine how someone else should act; what they should wear; how they should fix ‘their’ hair; or with whom they should mingle?

When I am embarrassed by my own behavior or life situation, am I saying that others are more important than me and that I should live or behave in a manner that makes them comfortable, Image result for self acceptance imagesbecause if I don’t I may not be accepted by them? Yes!  This is shame or fear of rejection!!!  What am I saying to my own soul when I think that I have to assimilate and become something or somebody else in order to fit in with others?  What do we say to our soul when we create a pseudo-personality or lifestyle in order for others to think that we are more than even we believe about ourselves? We are saying that we are not enough and that we have to live a lie in order to be accepted!  Now don’t get me wrong, I believe there are places that certain behaviors are inappropriate and that we have to exercise some tack and decorum – not necessarily to make others comfortable, but to demonstrate that we have been taught something about social skills.  But, I have no right to determine who you should be just so that I am comfortable!

What a posture of arrogance we sit in when we don’t accept people for who they are when we encounter them.  Gregory Boyd said in Repenting of Religion that “love is the central command in scripture and judgment is the central prohibition.” Therefore we need to turn to God’s love and away from condemnation.  Because if the truth be told, we all have something that we could be working on as we journey towards healing!  A close friend challenged me when I said I wish a tennis player would do something with his hair.  He asked me why?  I said, “First, he’s black and representing us and then it’s just nappy and he looks unkempt!”  He said, “Lisa, that guy didn’t sign up as your representative and how do you decide that he looks unkempt.  Is it because his hair is not something that you’re okay with?”

That conversation was about 3 years ago, but as I consider the word embarrassment and how typically self-acceptance is not encouraged but rather that people live and exist in a place that is comfortable for others, I’m repentant.  So with that, I apologize to every individual that I’ve ever tried to make live in the box that kept me safe at the cost of sacrificing yourself in order to be in relationship with me! Love who God made you to be!

Meditation Scriptures:

Genesis 1:27 So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created themmale and female he created them.

Psalm 139:13-14 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.


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Take good care of you…



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Chasing Distractions…

For the last 5 years I have been working on a Doctor of Ministry degree in Formational do what is necessaryCounseling.  While this is a degree that will empower me to position wounded people before an all-loving, all-powerful, all-knowing, God so that they may begin their healing journey, the path was designed to be completed in 3 years…I’m in year 5!  I realize that while finances, or the lack thereof has been a big part of why this program has not been completed, my chasing distractions has caused me to focus on things that have not paid off towards this degree in any way, shape or form. I have finished everything except the dissertation class and the writing of the dissertation.  So, what exactly would keep me from just finishing? Great question!!! Distractions would be my honest answer!

I’m now sitting with the wisdom of thought, that God has really high expectations of me and I’m really just starting to accept who God says I am.  I had brought and lived into so many lies of who the enemy said I was and couldn’t embrace who the inner-me said I am.  I had brought the lies; hook, line and sinker and paid a pretty penny for them.  You do know there is a cost whenever we do anything that is outside of the will of God for our lives?  Mind you, God has surrounded me with some wonderful people who constantly remind me of what God has deposited in me, how fearfully and wonderfully I’ve been made, and what a tremendous gift I am!  How sad I am that there are so many people I encounter who have lived their lives the same way I used to, that brought into the lies of the evil one and don’t realize who they are in Christ!

As I focus on getting this final leg of the this doctoral journey completed, I invite you to consider that the Lord has need of you.  This invitation is one that you can only embrace when you are really ready to focus, accept who God has created you to be and get prepared for the execution of your assignment.  I pray that you will look at those things that cause you to lose focus, to not believe, or to be so distracted that you think about giving up!  I want you to pray and renounce each and every one of them.  Don’t chase waterfalls, rabbits or anything else that will cause you to lose sight of all that has been deposited into you.  You have been created for greatness!!!the enemy distracts

Meditation Scriptures:

Philippians 1:6 (VOICE)  I am confident that the Creator, who has begun such a great work among you, will not stop in mid-design but will keep perfecting you until the day Jesus the Anointed, our Liberating King, returns to redeem the world.

Isaiah 26:3 (AMP)  “You will keep in [a]perfect and constant peace the one whose mind is steadfast [that is, committed and focused on You—in both[b]inclination and character]; Because he trusts and takes refuge in You [with hope and confident expectation].

Take good care of you,



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Are You Ready…

Are you ready question - vintage wooden letterpress printing blocks, stained by color inks, isolated on whiteIn 1992 Hardees had a commercial jingle that asked a very simple yet equally poignant question.  The jingle asked, “Are you ready for some real food?”  This may seem strange, but if you are not ready to eat real food, you could possibly choke to death!  If you have not learned to properly process you food or if your digestive system is not equipped to breakdown the intake of food, it could be harmful to you.  Catch that in the spirit!  This year my family has celebrated several commencements which has caused me to consider how we go through many periods of preparation throughout our life’s journey and I’ve found that people often want to skip steps or stages when being prepared for the next thing.  This is very dangerous; because the thing you needed in development, that you may have missed or not handled properly, could be the very thing that has you stuck in a vicious cycle of dysfunction.

Why am I sharing this information you may ask?  I am a high school math teacher by profession and a minister of the gospel by call.  I deal with an enormous number of people who want to skip the preparation process.  In other words they want the proverbial shine without any of the grind.  I have students who are extremely anxious to be grown; until grown folks stuff starts to show up while they are still in their preparation period and they have NO clue about  how to handle their adult situations.

In ministry, I meet people who are eager to turn their collar around without even a thought of turning their life around.  There are so many people who are desiring to be in somebody’s pulpit or have leadership status without the necessary preparation; they are more interested in having a position than being in position!  We do God’s people a disservice when we are to represent God, but we don’t want to go through the necessary process of growth and development ourselves!

Why do we think we are able to make disciples when we don’t want to be discipled or have bucked the disciplining process for our own lives?  Fifteen years ago, I had a premature son who died shortly after birth.  If I didn’t learn ANYTHING else, I know for sure that I do not want another premature blessing because the loss of his life has been one of the most difficult experiences I’ve ever had to hurdle.  Hear me when I say, that life lesson taught me that there are many complications when we rush the process and don’t let patience (life) have its perfect work.

I’ve learned not to beg for meat if I’m still in my milk stage.  But, I’ve also learned that I don’t want to be an overgrown saint still sucking a bottle when I should be eating a full course meal.  So how do we balance this?  We seek God in all of God’s wisdom, and everything that we’re supposed to have will come our way in its proper time.  How are you handling your season of preparation? Will you be ready when it’s time to move to your next phase?

Meditation scriptures:

Numbers 11:18 a ~ Then tell the people this: “Prepare yourselves for what will happen tomorrow.  You will eat meat”.

Matthew 6:33 ~ Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and then all these things will be given to you too.

Philippians 1:6 ~ I am confident that the Creator, who has begun such a great work among you, will not stop in mid-design but will keep perfecting you until the day Jesus the Anointed, our Liberating King, returns to redeem the world.

Take good care of you!



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