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What’s Your First Language?


Proverbs 18:21  (The Voice Translation)
Words have power in matters of life and death, and those who love them will savor their fruit.

I am currently working on a Clinical Coach Certification. It is a program where seasoned/veteran teachers coach resident/student teachers or first year teachers. I promise you, it has been a wonderful opportunity to pour as much of my 30 years of teaching experience as I can into a fresh mind, with new energy and a positive outlook. Because if the truth be told, I’m tired! And watching an education system become more concerned with what we need to cover to meet data requirements than they are with what children need to learn has gotten really old for me! (Please forgive my soapbox moment) So, if I can empower someone to use the tools that I’ve acquired over the last 30 years and they connect it with what God has deposited into them, I think something great can happen.

Why is this important you may ask? Well, tonight we had a training and a part of our focus was on English Language Learners. There was a fill in the blank statement that was posed. It went like this: “An English language learner’s first language is like a __________, because… Our facilitator asked us to fill in the blank and explain our reason(s). My response was: …is like a good relative because it allows them to feel a sense of connection. Now, I know that I was in an academic setting and should have been focused on what the facilitator was sharing; but, I began to think about how I communicate with people. My thought then went to the weight we carry in our tongue!

An adult tongue weighs on an average ~ approximately 2 1/2 oz.  It weighs a lot less in the flesh than it does in the spirit!!!  So, I thought, what’s my first language? I don’t just mean English. But, how do I “REALLY CONNECT” with people? Is my first language, love and acceptance? Do I speak a language that causes people to feel safe, secure and significant? Do I speak encouragement? Do I know how to communicate positively? Or do I speak complaining? Have I taken up a foreign language course in angry; displeasing, non-supportive or dismissive communication? I know several people who don’t know how to communicate positively.  But tick them off…

Now, I know – depending on the day of the week or the circumstance, you may have to reach in your bag and speak in tongues (lol).  But, what’s your daily language?  What’s your natural language?  This is something I would really like to dialogue with you about as you consider your first language (your emotional language). How does your communication style impact others?  How do theirs impact you? My desire is to be able to say to myself: “My first language is like ~ Love ~ because I want people to leave me feeling better than they did before we connected.” Hit me back and let me know your thoughts. Until then, take care of you…


Author: healedgirlsrock

Clergy, Social Justice Advocate, Servant, Educator, Facilitator, Counselor in Richmond, VA

6 thoughts on “What’s Your First Language?

  1. This is awesome…I get blogs/messages like this & then I unsubscribe because it’s too much sometimes. This was very practicable, straight to they point (with a good example) & relatable. Thank you so much. I look forward to receiving more. I hope & pray that a book is developed through this process…nah….make it a series! Congratulations on this journey!


  2. This is “good eatin” as we say down south Lisa. The word that rushed into my mind is ’embrace’. The expression extends far beyond words – but is language nonetheless. St. Francis of Assisi said, “Preach always. If necessary use words.”
    It is no wonder how such powerful thoughts regarding the language of love flowed effortlessly onto your blog, for it is Who You Are. I’m blessed to be one who is in perpetual experience of the unfailing love you give. Because of it I am a ‘richer’ person and forever indebted to you.


  3. Wow! What an awesome way to go deeper than the surface of what educators should be doing and connecting it to the Word like that. You go my friend Lisa. What a great thing God is using you for. What a fantastic journey and course He has set up on. Blessings!


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